Real Life Adulting

Those of us born between 1985 and 1995 are currently sitting amidst mess of struggle and success called "our twenties." And while we may have coined the phrase "adulting" it applies to all of us who have to schedule our own dentist appointments. Adulting describes the daily actions one must go through to be an adult; things like waking up to an alarm, working to pay bills, and feeding an army of always starving tiny people who may or may not look like us. So many of us are convinced that we are the only ones who dont have a single clue about how to do this successfully and are making a mess of life but that's just not true. Y'all, none of us, not even the wisest of us who have lived 70+ years have it all figured it. Let's take off the pressure and explore what Adulting really looks like. 

Adulting is waking up early, putting on pants, and going to work even when you don't feel like it. Adulting is taking a mental health day because you know you need one. It's even when your only cardio for the day is getting more salsa for the chips you're eating in bed. 

Adulting is consulting a financial advisor because you're terrible with money and only listening to what he says because he's funny.

Adulting is getting the dream job you've wanted since you were a kid at age 24. It's also working in a job you don't really like but it pays your bills. It's showing up everyday while working on your dreams even it if takes way longer than you ever thought it would.

Adulting is going to the gym and working out every day. It's also maybe watching a workout video once a week and only sometimes doing most of the exercises. 

Adulting is eating a perfectly balanced meal every day. It's also pizza.

 Adulting is brushing, flossing, and fluoride rinsing twice a day, everyday and making regular dentist visits. It's also Listerine because you ran out of toothpaste last night and don't get paid until Friday. 

Adulting is only getting your hair cut at a salon by a stylist who knows to ask what Crazy Sue from your office did this week because she's been cutting your hair years. It's also only getting it cut during the $7 haircut sales by a total stranger every time. 

Adulting is listening to NPR and reading credible news sources, staying up to date and informed on what's going on in the world. It's also Amy Poehler and Amy Schumer, and SNL because you really don't need a reason to love them, they're just that amazing.  

Adulting is doing your best. That's it. You are adulting well. You're not failing or behind the curve because there is no curve anymore. We're all in this giant 3 foot deep swimming pool of adulthood trying not to get our hair wet and maintain our cool while we pretend like we know what we're doing.

But maybe instead of working our hardest to pretend we have it all together, what would happen if when we showed up to life we talked about the mess of it? What if we allowed people to see our three days of dry shampoo moments instead of life under a filtered lens? How would that affect the way we see not only everyone else but ourselves?  

Take a deep breath, dear one. From one clueless, messy, anxious adult to another, you're doing just fine.